The Trauma Loop: Healing the Belief, Not Just the Memory

You have to deal with traumas. These are often at the center of beliefs and thoughts. They’re your response to a deeply upsetting event that overwhelms your ability to cope, lowers your self-esteem, causes hopelessness, makes you feel loss, causes you to lose control, can make you feel betrayed or powerless, and can cause incredible pain and confusion. Fortunately, you don’t have to remember or relive the trauma in order to heal it as most therapists would suggest; but you do have to address the belief that was created because of the trauma as that is what you have the power and ability to change in the now.

Simply put, which it's not simple, (lol) is to know yourself.

Question literally everything. Why do I feel ugly?

Well I can't find motivation to work out. Why can't I find motivation to work out? Think deeeeep. What sort of traumas have you experienced after getting healthy?

Well, my husband immediately assumed I was cheating on him.

You see, I wasn't allowed to just be healthy and confident, there had to be some sort of ulterior motive. Then I thought, why was I so worried my partners thought I had an ulterior motive? Well, maybe it's from that time I was raped and my own mother told me me it was probably my fault because I was heavily flirting and invited him over.

Right. Okay. So to workout and be healthy means to be sexy and wanted. And to be sexy and wanted means to be taken advantage of. And to be taken advantage of means I did something wrong, and it's my fault because I asked for it.

So I stay home and I don't work out.

Now that you've gotten to the bottom of the trauma. (my trauma lol)

You actively practice its opposite. You change the belief pattern.

You workout. You get healthy. You get creeps hitting on you, you've done kickboxing.

Now you can beat his fucking ass. Now no one can take advantage of you.

And poof. The belief system around the trauma has changed. You didn't need to relive the trauma. You just needed to address all the ways in which it was seeping into your life now - then rewrite your belief system.

Namaste,

KacieLynn